For Guys

What Are Your Options?

Although the woman is understandably the focus of any pregnancy, you still have an important role to play as you work together to determine your next steps. Men often ask themselves several questions when dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, including:

  • What should I do next?
  • How can we get access to a pregnancy test?
  • How much is an abortion?
  • Is adoption an option?
  • Would I be a good father?
  • Is my opinion important right now?
  • If I am no longer with my baby’s mother do I have any rights as a father?


Asking yourself these questions is perfectly normal. However, one thing is important to remember: yes, your opinion is important, and your thoughts do matter. When experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, many women look to their partner as a source of trust, which means that you can make a difference, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.


Of course, that does not mean that you won’t experience any discomfort. An unplanned pregnancy can put people in uncomfortable positions, especially in the beginning. But as time goes along, many men realize that they have an important role to play, and can help in the decision-making process.


The best way to help is often the simplest: by communicating and listening. It is important that when you discuss things with your partner that you are both open and honest about how you are feeling about the pregnancy. You both should feel heard and supportive, as this decision will affect both of you, even if it is ultimately the woman’s choice to make.


If you are a guy experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, we would encourage you to reach out to the Walker Area Pregnancy Support Center today to schedule an appointment. Not only can we provide you with important information about your options, but we can help you facilitate some of those difficult conversations with your partner.